“Who’s pulling your strings?” By Harriet Braiker Book Suggestion
“Have you ever felt as though that someone was pulling your strings – making you do things that you would rather not or stopping you from doing things that you would prefer to continue? Have you tried to untangle the strings only to find that you become more entrapped with each futile struggle?" ….
Based on psychological theory, research, years of clinical experience, "Who's Pulling Your Strings?" provides a useful overview of interpersonal manipulation. It offers an in-depth review of the nature of manipulative relationships and the extent of its psychological damage plus provides valuable, health-protecting programs that can prove valuable to those who wish to regain control of their lives
“Manipulation is used because it works. As long as you allow a manipulator to exploit and control you, he or she will continue to manipulate. However if you make the manipulation ineffective by changing your behaviour the manipulator will be forced to change tactics or seek an easier target elsewhere”
Who's Pulling Your Strings? will help you end a current destructive relationship, understand how it occurred--and prevent you from getting involved in a manipulative relationship again. Through revealing self-assessment quizzes, action plans, and how-to exercises, Dr. Braiker empowers you to:
• Recognize the signs of a manipulative relationship
• Spot manipulators and their typical ways of operating
• Assess your own vulnerability to manipulation
• Identify the 7 main "Head Games" manipulators play
• Utilize effective resistance tactics against manipulator's efforts
• Transform yourself from a "soft" to a "hardened" target
• Extricate yourself from manipulative relationships that do not change
• Protect yourself from falling prey to manipulators' control in the future
• Stop others from pulling your strings once and for all
“When you stop rewarding manipulative tactics by ceasing to cooperate, to comply , please, acquiesce, apologise or respond to intimidation or threats you will unilaterally alter the nature of the manipulative relationship”
When you participate in a manipulative relationship, you unwittingly collude with the person who seeks to control you. Every time you comply, capitulate, cave-in or otherwise satisfy your manipulator’s wishes and purposes, you reinforce the toxic cycle that is compromising your self-esteem, co-opting your values and corroding your emotional wiring.
Being manipulated is a highly stressful experience. It is unpleasant , demeaning and disturbing and to your emotional, mental, and physical well-being. This book shares with you proven methods to help you thwart manipulators and ultimately break free from their destructive and toxic influences.